Most of my clients want to be more confident. Why not? I’d like to be more confident. (Does anyone ever feel they have enough self-confidence?) But too often, the expectation is that if I was just more confident, I wouldn’t have to work so hard or go through so much emotional struggle to ace this Read More
Miscellaneous
Job Search? Don’t Let a Bad Attitude Screw You Up (Part 1)
A Critical Attitude toward Yourself Can Turn Other People Off Here’s an example of bad attitude toward yourself: I recently worked with a new job interview client—let’s call her Gina—who’s done some interesting short-term jobs, but doesn’t know what her future career should look like. Normally, we’d spend our 1:1 session time identifying options and Read More
Should You Be Memorable or Precise?
Sometimes You Have to Choose I live across the street from two restaurant sheds* that take up five parking spots. That’s what a client of mine recently said in an interview about her New York City neighborhood. (*”Restaurant sheds” are outdoor dining areas located in parking spaces, driving lanes, or on public sidewalks.) I loved Read More
Your Goal is Good Audience Experience
Whenever you speak in public—whether it’s a stand-up presentation (remember those?), a few remarks to open an event, a comment in a meeting, or “just” talking to your boss or a colleague—you get to choose what your goal is. Your goal can be to “be eloquent,” “impress the audience,” or “show people that I know Read More
Act “As If”: Because the Only Thing We Control is Ourselves
Lately, A Feeling of Control is Hard to Come By… Like many people, I like thinking that I’m in control—of myself, of my prospects, of my own life. But with the unchecked pandemic, the coming climate chaos, the near-collapse of our economy (because Wall Street is not the economy!), this insane back-to-school season, our endangered Read More